Your Type
You crave love but constantly push them away, say the opposite of what you mean, or create conflict to test your partner's limits. This "destructive repetitive testing" actually reflects your deep inferiority and anxiety that "you are fundamentally unworthy of love"; you firmly believe they will leave sooner or later, so you use "prematurely detonating landmines" to either prove your fears right before getting hurt, or force them to prove they truly won't leave. But few relationships can survive endless depletion. Try taking a deep breath next time you want to say something hurtful, and instead say "I'm really scared of losing you right now"; when you learn to express your inner fears directly, you won't need to trade hurt for love anymore.
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This is a mix of 'Projection' and anxious attachment. Believing deep down they will eventually be abandoned, they use destructive testing to prematurely confirm their fears.
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