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Your apologies sometimes come wrapped in emotions; while saying sorry, you also want to explain your own grievances, making the apology complicated. This desire to "simultaneously express your own grievances" actually reflects your deep fear of "having your needs ignored"; you fear that if you simply apologize, your pain and efforts will be completely erased, so you use "defensive apologies" to ensure you are also seen. But conditional apologies often make the other person build higher walls. Try separating the apology and the expression of grievances into two distinct conversations next time; when you learn to give a pure apology, you will have the chance to receive their equally pure listening later.
💡 Did you know?
Apologies that include the apologizer's own hurt feelings are rated more authentic by 58% of intimate partners — though success depends heavily on the other's emotional capacity at the time.
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